Chapter 27: I Love My Baby But, We Can’t Forget About Our Marriage

Hi, Everyone.
 Tim here.  Whitney’s husband. You might remember me from such kids as Sonny, and also our wedding.
Whitney asked me to write the copy for this Chapter because it is all about our marriage.  First of all, it’s none of your business. Just kidding, I’ll tell you everything.
Whit and I have a great relationship, but that doesn’t mean that it doesn’t take effort and thought on both our parts just like all relationships. It’s easy to get caught up in the extra work a baby brings and forget to plan dates and things like that. Filming this subject this week has definitely reminded me about being a good husband and not just a good dad.
The toughest part of this entire baby experience has been watching Whit struggle and not being able to do much about it.  I know I can support her and be nice and all that, but there wasn’t anything I could do to stop the nipple pain and its aftershocks.  And I’m not saying this in an “it was so hard to watch her struggle” way, even though it was, more like it was tough on our relationship.  When Whit is in a bad mood, like anyone else, it’s not super fun to be around. She wasn’t just upset when she went to breastfeed and then super happy at dinner, it was all the time and that was no fun for me.
The physical stuff seriously doesn’t bother me.  I knew she would put on weight and her body would change, and then it would change again.  I mean, my body is changing and I have no real good excuse. Plus, I didn’t marry Whitney because she is super hot, that was just a happy accident. If you really must know, I am just as physically attracted to her as I was when I invented Sonny with her at the Ojai Valley Inn and Spa.
What else? I don’t know and I have to get back to work.  I’ll you what.  Feel free to ask any questions in the comments and I will reply. Oh, and while I have your attention, I wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you to all the nice ones out there. When Whit is having a hard time she often reads the comments and it truly makes both of us feel better. So, thank you very much.  And to the rare mean ones out there, what is the matter with you? Seriously, figure it out.

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  1. Hi Whitney! I’m 25 weeks pregnant with my first child and your videos have helped me so much! Not to mention they’re just so much fun to watch. I had an awful first trimester filled with nausea and headaches, and it was so helpful to know I wasn’t alone. Keep up with what you doing and know that you’re helping so many women just by sharing your experiences!

  2. Your videos together provide such a source of relief and knowledge about relationships, life, and the realness in all of it. I appreciate both of your candor and it has helped me understand a lot about what I want and what I believe. It makes me realize that my expectations and image on life are possible.
    Your videos also bring a sense of therapy and communication. What doesn’t get through in movies, tv shows, and other youtube channels is the real aspects of communication that having a relationship and family involve. I see this as the thing that gives me the most value within your channel and keeps pulling me back to it.

    Thank you!

  3. Hi Whitney & Tim! Thank you so much for all your videos. I really enjoy watching them and appreciate how honest you both are. I am currently 17 weeks preggo with twins!!! We are both scared to death, but seeing you all makes me realize that we can do it too, although it will be hard eek! Anyway, thanks so much for always being so candid, keep up the good work! Sarah Kirsh from NY

  4. I love your videos, please please keep posting. I laugh, I cry and I learn. You and Tim are so great together, you two remind me of me and husband. Keep up the good work.


  5. I loved the Saturday morning chat Video. You are both so real and open! Maybe you could do it regularly. Also whitney, could you talk about your workout routine?

  6. Hey Whitney + Timmy! I’d love to know how you both balance meal prep, or just meals in general to stay healthy and not be too stressed as new parents. I’d love to see that as an episode! Thanks for your candid portrayal and for sharing this part of your lives — its been so helpful!


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